Being a family caregiver means that you’re interacting with your elderly loved one and with other family members, too. If you’re not able to get across to your other family members what you need, when you need it, you might find yourself consistently disappointed. Try some of these suggestions.
Use “I” Statements
If you’re talking to your other family members with “you” statements, those can feel accusatory. When you use “I” statements instead, those feel less like an attack and put the focus on what you’re trying to communicate. Many people are afraid of “I” statements because they feel like a more selfish way to communicate. In reality, you’re being more authentic about your feelings and needs.
Explain Your Feelings
As you’re sharing what you need with other family members, let them know why you’re feeling the way that you are. They may not realize that being a family caregiver is overwhelming or that you’re worried about your loved one all the time. If they can understand your feelings and why you’re asking for some of the support you’re asking for, they might open up and offer more assistance.
Communicate What Is Going on with Your Loved One
Another bit of information that can help your other family members understand why you need help is to share with them what is going on with your loved one. Her health conditions and other information can make more sense to other family members sometimes than an earnest plea for assistance can. Keep them informed as much as you can without sacrificing your loved one’s privacy or dignity.
Be Specific about What You Need
When you’re expressing your need for more help, be as specific as you can. This makes sure that on both your part and the other person’s part that there are no misunderstandings. If you need some items from the grocery store, provide a list. If you need someone to stay with your loved one for an hour or two, give specific times and stick to them as closely as possible.
This new style of communicating can take some practice on your part. As you gain confidence, it becomes easier to be more clear with your other family members.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregiver services in Tanglewood, TX, contact the caring staff at Personal Caregiving Services at 832-564-0338. Providing Care in Houston, Bellaire, West University Place, Katy, and Sugar Land and the surrounding areas.
In 1989 after selling his family owned food service business, Mr. Gerber pursued his compassion for the elderly by completing his geriatric education and training requirements to be a licensed nursing home administrator (LNFA) from the University of Texas Health Science Center at Houston.Previously he received his undergraduate business degree from the University of Texas at Austin and his Masters in business administration (MBA) from the University of Houston.In 2003, Mr. Gerber earned his Certification to be a Senior Advisor (CSA).
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